Explosion.
so I get home from the lawyer, and sure enough my ex calls. She HAPPILY asks me, "what seems to be the problem?" and I went nuts. I let her know that I have started an investigation and that the state is gonna have a field day with her. She smugly says "I don't need the damn courts or any of that. I am signing off my parental rights and signing off on my child support" (when you give over full custody you stop paying child support) during our conversation, she mentioned cutting the support 4 times, and never once said she would miss her child. Turns out she's pregnant again (third time.. 3 kids three fathers) and it sounds like she need the money more then she needs her daughter. She refused to give me her mailing address to send the paperwork to. Which in short will take an extra 1-2 months to get a court order to get it from her work or from the child support agency. So she looses another $400 a month till they get the addy.
I call my lawyer back, and told him it happened the way I said. And he said he would get the paperwork for the parental transfer going right away. I asked if health and human services called back, and he said they had not yet, and I told him to just drop the charges, and get me my daughter. And he said it will be done.
So it seems that I will get my way after all. I just hope this all goes smoothly..